motherhood tired is a different kind of tired

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Oh, so you threw away my husbands sperm instead of freezing it and he’s now on military orders. No it’s fine. Let’s just throw away the eggs we get today too.

9mo ⋅

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Fucking pregnancy announcement in my local dog group for fucks sake. No where is safe

11mo ⋅

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Why do people find it necessary to announce how unmedicated & spontaneous their twins/triplets are? “We did NOT do IVF or anything, we weren’t even trying!” Um, good for you, fertile Fanny. Wish it were me.

2yr ⋅

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Spending the holidays with the in-laws had its upsides...

1yr ⋅

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When your stepmom tells you a miscarriage close to 6 weeks isn't a real miscarriage and that it doesn't count as being pregnant yet

3yr ⋅

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I know this isn’t a meme or anything, but I thought it was so neat that Etsy thought of doing this.

3yr ⋅

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Trying to dissociate from TTC and watch the Love is Blind Reunion .... only to have to listen to them mention babies and OVARIES over and over again

1yr ⋅

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MRW my SIL hands me a birthday card saying “WISHING YOU THE BEST BIRTHDAY VIBES” and signs it: Audrey, Matt, Alice and SURPRISE! BABY #2!

2yr ⋅

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You know if you lost some weight you'd get pregnant, right? That's ALL it will take?!

1yr ⋅

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Almost posted this then realized I’d lose 100% of my friends and about 60% of my family.

11mo ⋅

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At least when the US turns into Gilead, I won’t have to be a Handmaid 😅

1yr ⋅

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Me, benched after 2022 failures, not caring what cycle day it is, how much dairy I’m having or worried about that second coffee.

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my outfits this week trying to get my period to start 35 days after my D&C

3yr ⋅

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When your ‘friend’ who knows about your loss says: “you better not get prune again before my wedding so we can have a fun bachelorette party”.

2yr ⋅

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The moment my coworker got pregnant after getting close to me bc she also though she was infertile

10mo ⋅

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My latest gripe: “Have you considered adoption?” No, I’ve never heard of that. It hasn’t crossed our mind AT ALL. Please tell me more about how to adopt (and how I’ll then get pregnant naturally).

2yr ⋅

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Me after 3 years of declining dental x-rays because I mIgHt bE a FeW daYs PrEgnAnt

1yr ⋅

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Infertility in a nutshell.

3yr ⋅

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Waiting for the results of the pregnancy test I took on CD2 because what if I’m a scientific novelty?

3yr ⋅

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When the pharmacy tech filling your fertility meds is pomegranate, but then she tells you those are the same meds she used on the cycle that worked

2yr ⋅

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When you find out the pregnancy announcement from a coworker Monday was an April fools joke. 😡🤬😡

2wk ⋅

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When you repost something about the grief of infertility on MD and your fertile mertile friend sends you a whole paragraph about how MD is for moms only because it's the one day a year they get celebrated.

1yr ⋅

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When I’m spending new years with my friends who are moms and one of them asks “when are you FINALLY gonna have a baby?!”

4mo ⋅

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All the fertiles on my feed got together and decided to ruin National Infertility Awareness Week for me with an unprecedented stream of announcements

3yr ⋅

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Me and the picture they gave me of my embryo ❤️

1yr ⋅

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“You might have some mild cramping with the HSG, similar to period cramps”

5mo ⋅

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Researching fertility diets who all advice to cut out red meat but you've been a vegetarian for 7 years now

1yr ⋅

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Yup.

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🙃🙃🙃

8mo ⋅

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Helping my husband collect for IUI and realizing I’m truly doing all the work here.

6mo ⋅

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Every freaking fertility vitamin, apparently

1yr ⋅

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MRW I tell my mom our only option might be IVF and she says “well be careful how many embryos they do bc those are baby humans and you don’t want to kill them” followed by “have you considered adopting” instead of offering any kind of support.

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the Flo app is suggesting I test at 7DPO!

3mo ⋅

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Sitting here at the fertility clinic next to someone with a baby in a stroller playing videos for the baby very loudly.

3mo ⋅

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Tilting the pregnancy test up, side to side, checking up on it after a few minutes, just to *make sure* it's really negative every single month.

1yr ⋅

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when your friend publishes an article about her fertility struggles so you turn to talk to her and she hasn't even been trying naturally for 6 months yet

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I’ve heard this too many times and it takes everything in me not to😂

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These are the socks I picked for my follicle count unltrasound today.

3yr ⋅

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Running out of things to depression-purchase after 18 months of unsuccessful IVF.

2yr ⋅

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Might start this tbh

1yr ⋅

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Sister pregnant with her second and mil thinks we should give up...

11mo ⋅

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Tell my grandma we’re doing ivf. Her response: “you know it took your cousin 6 mo to get pregnant so don’t rush.” Me:

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I’ve been ttc since 2019 and have nothing to show for it but 3 losses, ptsd, getting lapped by everyone around me; but then I look at the world and think, I least I won’t be forced into surrogacy when we go full Handmaids Tale

2yr ⋅

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How I feel opening up to people about our unexplained infertility

3yr ⋅

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It’s a party 🎉 down there 👇!

2wk ⋅

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Just got the call that my one embryo from the one IVF cycle I could afford didn’t make it.

1yr ⋅

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Me getting dragged back here as I miscarry the twins that came from transferring our one and only euploid embryo. They were conjoined. Just a cool chance of 1 in 30,000 or 1 in 200,000 depending on the source.

2yr ⋅

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today I pissed on a stick, 9 days too early just because the test provoked me with its presence in my house.

1yr ⋅

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2nd IVF and nurse called on Friday and congratulated me on my pregnancy from my blood results. Only to get a call Saturday from RE saying sorry there was a mistake and my period started literally 30min after that call...

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When the security guard at the clinic welcomes you by saying Ah yes I remember you, you're always here!. This is not a fucking Starbucks dude no one is supposed to be a regular here you braindead moron.

1yr ⋅

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This is fine

2yr ⋅

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I made this meme nearly a year ago. The longer I’m here, the funnier and saltier it gets. Waiting for ivf round two has again got me like:

1yr ⋅

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When my 29 year old patient won’t stop bitching about having 4 kids, being pregnant again, telling me “for your future reference plan B doesn’t work”, and whining about being an “old mom” and how she wished she had her kids younger so she could drink wine

9mo ⋅

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Overhearing my husband telling a friend how stressful going through IVF has been

11mo ⋅

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Me at 9dpo on my way the bathroom to take a test we all know will be negative 😅

6mo ⋅

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When you’re TTC in your late thirties and the dentist doing your X-ray makes the presumption that you “couldn’t be pregnant”, because of your age.

1yr ⋅

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My friend’s wife when she texted me a picture of her positive test because “I know you’re struggling w/ infertility but I didn’t want to lie when I next see you”:

11mo ⋅

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When your IVF nurse says “nice specimen!” to your husband after a collection.

9mo ⋅

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2.5 years TTC at 32. 1st ER: 1 blast out of 10 eggs... To the optimists in my life:

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Godspeed today American friends 🦃

2yr ⋅

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Girls night tomorrow and a friend just said she doesn’t know if she can drink because she’s “on an antibiotic.”

1yr ⋅

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When your coworker informs you that they had been trying for a few months and had set up an appt with a fertility doc and OOPS they didn’t realize she was pregnant that whole time and didn’t need to continue with one after all!

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MRW a friend (who is aware of our struggles) tells me “you just don’t get it” when explaining how much she misses soft cheeses now that she’s pregnant

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how I felt when my response to the question, “when are you going to have kids?” was “probably when I stop miscarrying, idk” (plz lmk your sarcastic responses to dumb questions/sayings so I can log them into my brain for use) 🙏🏼

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Realizing that at Halloween, thanksgiving, and Christmas last year we said that would be our ✨last✨ of those holidays with “just the two of us” and now we’re maybe looking at the rest of our lives with just the two of us.

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When the latest Mother’s Day challenge is posting a pic of when the moms were pregnant

2yr ⋅

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Don’t have to be sad about seeing pregnancy announcements if you just unfriend everyone

1yr ⋅

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There’s always that one infertile “despite 30 years of infertility and 50 rounds of IVF I NeVeR EvEr had NeGaTiVe FeELiNgS aBoUt OtHeRs SuCcEsS”.

2yr ⋅

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Me downvoting cycle 1 unicorns just to watch them throw a fit

2yr ⋅

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When someone on a TTC board stresses about their “time running out” but they’re way younger than you 🥲

2yr ⋅

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And this is after a complete molar pomegranate that gave me cancer which required chemo 🫠

11mo ⋅

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When they try to comfort you after a MC

1yr ⋅

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When this is parked on your street during tww - damn it

3mo ⋅

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Almost 5 years in and still find myself going down the Reddit rabbit hole: “is (fill in the blank) an early pregnancy symptom” ?

1mo ⋅

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When the fertilized egg lands on my uterus

3yr ⋅

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When someone asks me if I’m sure we’re...”doing it” correctly

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Cutting off my hair and dyed it because my sister saw me in a dream with that hair while pushing a stroller

1yr ⋅

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Trying to be happy for a friend who just told me she's pregnant with her second...I started trying before she got pregnant with her first. Getting lapped brings a whole new level of joy to this shitshow 🫠

4mo ⋅

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When I’m feeling bummed and broken but giving up on TTC somehow feels worse

2yr ⋅

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joining the 2 year club this Christmas🥲

2yr ⋅

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“It’s been so much harder for me because I got pregnant so quickly with my first. 4 months is, like, the equivalent of a year.”

2yr ⋅

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When a new acquaintance says “all the women in my family had miscarriages except me and I feel so left out” after sharing about my miscarriage

1yr ⋅

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Actual image of me when yet another friend tells me they’re pregnant while we’re going on 3 years of this

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When you're ttc friends get their bfp and you're the only one left

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The TWW reminder that we all probably need

3yr ⋅

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MRW my unicorn friend says she doesn’t think she would be as emotionally affected by infertility as me

1yr ⋅

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Why doesn’t everyone in the morning monitoring waiting room look as disheveled as me?

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Gotta make it fun somehow

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When my mom angrily tells me she just doesn't know what to say to me anymore because my daughter was stillborn

1yr ⋅

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Remembering that I cried the first time we had unprotected sex cuz it was scary and new and now it’s been 2.5 years

5mo ⋅

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me seeing people's tweets about their pregnancies when i still haven't stopped bleeding yet from my most recent mc

10mo ⋅

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My reaction to reading “habitual aborter” in my medical records

2yr ⋅

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Me during my TWW calculating what month my potential baby will be born... except I do this every month only to get BFNs when testing time comes

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When a super fertile tries to give unsolicited TTC advice

1yr ⋅

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Why must people do this 🤦‍♀️

7mo ⋅

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Me when someone posts a pic of their HPT with their wedding ring around the window, as if we allllll don’t know where the f*** to look

1yr ⋅

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Me when I see a post on the engagement ring subreddit of some woman flashing her giant diamond ring push present with the caption saying it was her gift for birthing their third and final child

9mo ⋅

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The insane despair that I’ll never get pregnant or end this miserable, life-sucking infertility nightmare

1yr ⋅

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I swear it is true

4yr ⋅

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Every gyno appointment, I get put in the fucking barren tree room.

3yr ⋅

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My FBI agent when I start Googling iMpLaNtAtIoN bLeEdInG on CD1

3yr ⋅

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MRW the oblivious, pregnant, unicorn (who knows about my IVF mc’s) at work asks how my Mother’s Day was. When I️ tell her it was okay but I️ hate the holiday she asks, “Why!? Oh cause of your stuff?”

3yr ⋅

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“You just handled your loss so well. I don’t know what I would have done.” Thank you. I’m dead inside, but

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love my supportive bestie ❤️

1yr ⋅

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New Salt Level Activated; Thought we’re doing a FET but my husband has cancer instead.

11mo ⋅

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Just thinking about my SIL baby shower tomorrow and how much Id like to die overnight so I don’t have to go

3mo ⋅

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MRW I realise there’s only TWO cycles left to have a baby in 2024

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Sitting here two month post loss and on my period with especially painful cramps, crying my eyes out as I think about all my pregnant friends and family wondering if and when it will ever get better... cycle 23 was a fail. This shit sucks...

1yr ⋅

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Yeah that's not how any of this works...

3yr ⋅

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MRW a local photographer I follow on Facebook posts the ENTIRE newborn/family album of none other than my EX, his wife, and their new baby...

3yr ⋅

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My Instagram feed is full of Labor Day posts telling labor/birth stories?? IS NO HOLIDAY SAFE???

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Taking a break from infertility treatment bc my husband needs a breather. Reading about all the ladies who got pregnant the month they stopped trying. So obviously my brain is like, This is it. This is the month.

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It can feel like I'm the only non-pregnant in the whole world.

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Im honestly so fucking done with this month 🫠

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When last year I was so naive to think i d for sure be pregnant attending 4 weddings next month and would have to wear maternity dresses.

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When I see someone trying to support a user with fears of miscarriage say just trust that your baby loves you and wants to stay

2yr ⋅

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When you’re negative on 12 DPO and have to go to a mandatory work meeting with a “surprise baby shower” at the end for your coworker

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When someone (who has claimed to have suffered from infertility) keeps rubbing her pregnancy on your face with every_single_thing now that she's pregnant. She can eat ice cream because she has TwO sToMaChS and is smart now because she has TwO bRaInS. Drives me mad and I hate feeling this way. 😭

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Today my hairstylist looked me dead in the eyes and said “So like can you just not have kids? Is that why you all haven’t had one yet?” I replied “Well after 4 years, multiple miscarriages, endless tests and thousands of dollars down the drain I would say yea probably not” ::crickets::

2yr ⋅

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Doc gently informed me I’m done

2yr ⋅

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Me moving stark white tests to every angle in every lighting to see the phantom shadows.

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New level of grief unlocked ... Crying in the grocery story 🙃

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An Instagram medium told me I don’t respect the sanctity of life and don’t deserve to have a child because I said that discarding embryos in IVF does not make someone a murderer...so how’s y’all’s morning going?!

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Watching my MIL post about how proud she is of all the moms in the family

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When even others’ positive IVF results are making you bitter 🙃

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Me when my husband gets performance anxiety so I pull out some tricks from the Fertile Window Kama Sutra

3yr ⋅

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When I get sad about seeing my childhood best friend announce her pregnancy and my mom chimes in “it’s not a race.”

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My uterus this holiday season ..

3yr ⋅

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Woke up to flowers and Starbucks this morning. Husband said “Invisible moms matter too.” Since I would have been 8 months pregnant right now, this was especially poignant today. Happy Mother’s Day to all of you ♥️

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MRW responding to the question on the flu shot form Are you or do you plan to become pregnant in the next month?

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Waking up today having to attend my husband's literal teenage nieces babyshower, she's using the name of recently passed grandmother, my FIL is wearing a shirt with grandkids names he's never met but not my FT Stillborn son and I'm on cycle day 121

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But she was off the pill and using no protection.

1yr ⋅

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Me: having a lighthearted chat with a colleague about feeling tired all the time. My other colleague: swoops in and says he “doesn’t want to hear about tiredness unless you’ve got a toddler and a baby”

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Me checking my dried negative test to see if revealed a hidden secret

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Not all heroes wear capes.

2yr ⋅

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Goodbye and thanks for you laughs

8mo ⋅

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My therapist, who has a baby, got teary while I was talking about my infertility feelings. He then said I was helping him get perspective for himself and for his future patients. Cool bro.

10mo ⋅

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A throwback to me overconfidently walking out of my first RE visit thinking advanced medicine would simply cure my unexplained infertility

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My rage when my friends announced they are ttc, I was genuinely happy for them, until they said “We hope it will, unlike your experience, be easier for us! No offense!”

2yr ⋅

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Did I buy a fertility spell from Etsy...yes

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All of the announcements on social media coming from EVERY awful person/couple I’ve ever met

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Me if I see one more post saying think you love your husband now! Just wait! you don't know love until you see him be a dad!! 😊❤️

1yr ⋅

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I know this image has floated around here before, but it’s National Infertility Awareness Week, so in case any trolls need a reminder, here you go ❤️

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