41, single and unemployed. Feeling really down right now. Could use some positivity

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Hello, you may remember me as one of the people looking sad from a few days ago. I just wanted to say that the toasts I got here have really helped me to have a better week, you guys are great people and I can’t wait to contribute to this sub as much as it helped me. That’s it, have a great day.

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A toast to you lot! Today I turn 30, as a teenager I never thought I’d be around at this age. A few years ago I never thought I’d be happy. Here I am: independent, happy and strong. I hope all of you feel fine and fabulous!

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I'm writing a message to my homophobic parents to tell them they're not invited to my (same sex) wedding. We never talk about my relationship, but I want to tell them this directly, instead of through the grapevine. I could use a toast, because I'm terrified.

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Im a 25 y/o transgirl just needing some love. I got out of (mens) jail in April, which was actual hell for me. I was harrassed and threatened by everyone, including the guards. And no mater what i do, or how i look, ill never be a real female. I feel very depressed rn. Thanks r/toastme!

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35m, married, in a DB, low paid security guard, don't own a house, no kids and overweight. Please put a better smile on my face lol

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I got invited to talk about game design and show off my game next week. I’m super excited, but also super nervous cause it’s my first indie professional release. Need good vibes.

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My uncle died 3mos ago over year after a drowning accident. My Nana fell and got traumatic brain injury a month ago. My abuelo had a stroke last week and is in the hospital where they have found there is A LOT wrong with him. My adopted grandma died 3 days ago. Plz toast me. I need some love.

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Decided to divorce in order to get out of an abusive marriage. Feeling alone and unloved and I really want a hug.

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I had a rough therapy session, a nurse was super unfriendly to me, family issues and self esteem issues, have a blessed day 🌸

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One year ago I was diagnosed with major anxiety, which they thought was leading to an enlarged heart. Today is almost a year later and I have no heart problems, no panic attacks, and honestly I am feeling the healthiest I've been in my life. A toast to everyone's mental and physical endeavors!

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Yesterday I applied for a job. Today, I had my first interview and got hired for my first job! (old verif pic bc i didn’t feel like taking a new one)

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I got told about a college scholarship the night before it was due. Three anxiety-inducing hours later and I finished the essay for it in only three drafts!

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I don't have friends to celebrate my 1y 5m non smoking time, anyone here to cheer for me? :)

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Today is my 31st birthday, and I feel like time is running away from me again. Last year I had just gotten my 90 day review at my dream job that was going to get me financially stable for the first time in my life. Going on 8 months unemployed and trying not to lose hope.

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The last toast helped motivate me enough to draw again. Thank you all.

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I'm officially an established author now. I think this calls for celebration!

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The person I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with left me a week ago. Broken.

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[~14F] I'm very self conscious about my very dark skin and have just been feeling very discouraged lately, also I need advice for keeping a good afro (4C hair)

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I'm afraid of my face being seen by others so this is me trying to get over it

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(21) After a life long hatred/fear of my neck being touched, doctors found a mass in the middle of my throat and I get a biopsy done soon. Feel like I’m going to have a panic attack every 5 minutes, kind/calming words would be very much appreciated for a girl who’s scared shitless 💜

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I lost my job Jan 3rd, but start a new one on March 2nd!

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Update: It's been nearly one year since going to the hospital for preterm labor at 22 weeks and we now have a wonderful, happy, healthy Baby Woodenmonkeyfaces. Your comments and support meant so much to me in the darkest time of my life. This toast is to you Reddit. P.S. HOOOLD!

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Going through Hella dysphoria and had a bad acne outbreak due to side effects of a sleeping pill I tried. Be noice. Also first time trying eye shadow.

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Hi reddit! I just donated 17 inches of my hair and got the surgery I'd wanted for 7 years (I'm still in recovery hehe!) Toast me! ~ <3

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I just had my first ever article published and it already has 1000 shares! I’ve never been happier!

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Disowned my racist family, came out to all of my friends, made significant progress in my EDR journey, made the full plunge into veganism, found out I'm on the spectrum, & began to set firm boundaries with my relation/friendships all in a month and I now feel more like myself than ever before.

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Struggling heavily with my appearance. Been having an extremely bad week. Could use a small pick me up.

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I'm just a middle school history teacher trying to figure out remote learning. My brain feels fried from all the technology I've had to learn to use. I'm doing my best, but I'm not sure it's good enough. It's hard. I could use some encouragement.

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Hi, I’ve been suffering from a lot of body image issues and low confidence and I could really use some kindness <3

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1st picture is me 5 years ago.... https://imgur.com/a/RflEfwR

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It took nineteen pictures until I was finally okay with posting one. I really could use a pick-me-up. I have struggled with self worth for as long as I can remember and I fear that so many of my dreams will go unfulfilled. I feel defeated and lost.

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I'm at home today with a minor back injury (stupid gym), and just want you all to know that I'm rooting for you from my couch! A toast for you today, if you need it. Hugs!

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[UPDATE] Hello again! I posted my artwork here a few days ago, on my birthday. A lot of people asked for an update once it was finished, so here it is! The linework is finished at last. :)

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Today I had to say goodbye to playing Belle in a local production of Beauty and the Beast. I cried during my last song as the beast died. I could use a toast.

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My oldest daughter had to have an emergency abortion and my friend since childhood who was practically raised by my mother and was my “sister” took her own life by jumping off a bridge. This all happened in 6 hours yesterday. Could use some encouragement. I feel like a failed father and friend.

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My birthday was this week. The only person who used to care enough about that (my dad) passed away last year. Today I made myself cookies and listened to the birthday song on repeat. Can I please get a few positive messages :(

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Got dumped 2 days ago, feel like shit. Please reddit do your thing

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Overweight, felt miserable, got a puppy, broke up with my ex, moved into a new city by myself, had a few breakdowns, stopped taking care of myself and my apartment, started to take care of myself again but tenfold, lost some weight, stopped people pleasing. Last 12 months were hard but necessary.

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The person who I built my life with just left me and our 2yo son. No reason for it. I feel worthless and confused and need some positivity. Any positivity.

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I work on Broadway and we have all temporarily lost our jobs due to Covid-19. Yesterday they announced that they are extending our closure. I was lucky enough to get out of NYC but I could honestly use some love right now.

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Today I give the presentation that will earn me my degree in public and professional medical writing. Wish me luck!

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Today is my 32nd bday and im feeling lonley and depressed (long story aka job searching) Could use a pick me up and to smile. Thanks in Advance

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I just got my first tux and am feeling really confident! I thought this might be a nice thing to do while I’m still on the happy high :)

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Heading to rehab, I'm sick and tired of being ruled by alcohol. Wish me luck!

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I'm barely leaving my depression cave, let alone socialize (since long before covid) and I needed a reason to make myself look a bit more like a human being again, hence this post

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29m - recovering heroin addict, been clean for 361 days. Struggling rn w/ my fiance in & out of hospital, trying to keep everything running by myself (our business, pets, housekeeping, etc.), and my best friend was killed this past Mon. I have so much to be grateful for; but, it still gets hard.

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Hello! I’m officially down 54lbs, but still have ways to go. I’m proud of where I am and where I’m going. My confidence has gotten a lot better, but taking it day-by-day. Had a job interview recently and I feel like it went really well! I find out this week if I got it!

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I turned 21 today, and I spent it sad, alone, drunk, and wanting to kill myself. Mom killed herself when I was 14, I cant feel anything besides crushing emptiness, and I feel like no one will ever care about me or if I die.

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Last month I asked y'all for a little push to get me to 365 days of sobriety. Today I'm back to tell you I made it! 365 days and counting! Y'all helped me get here, will you help me celebrate too?

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Got broken up with 2 months ago and severely heartbroken. I also manically shaved my head during an episode. I feel so insecure. :/

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M(20) Been feeling stressed with school. No friends. Feeling pretty down. Counselor told me to take it one step at a time so I’m conquering my fear of posting my face online rn. Tbh, I’m probably going to delete this.

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My mother thinks she is old and ugly, despite the opposite being true. Toast her!

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I'm 3 months and 6 days clean today. It's been a struggle since day one, but I'm determined.

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I have autism and was just accepted to medical school!

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About to spent the afternoon with family who tear me down but I’m not strong enough to say no. Could do with feeling good about myself.

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Took the dive and let my girlfriend cut my hair. She's never cut hair before.

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I am at college taking 5 classes and work 3 jobs. Last year I was hospitalized and forced to drop out for my mental health. Tomorrow will mark 1 year since my leave of absence. My mom is still disappointed over my hospitalization and refuses to congratulate me. I don't want to celebrate it alone.

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I need some toasting. Covid has striken again and we needed to close the family business. Hubby is in the industry as well. Relationship feels like going down the drain. Kinda loosing hope.

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I'm 25 with two kids, I've struggled my whole life with depression and was diagnosed with bipolar in April. I feel like a bad dad, and I don't know what to do with my life. I could use some positivity.

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Have been extremely suicidal. Extremely Depressed since December 2018. Having a hard time at home & extremely lonely. I could use some love.

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Hi everyone I struggle with body dysmorphia I lost over 100 pounds recently gained a little because of Covid I honestly beat myself up for it everyday I’m starting to work out and making progress on losing some weight that I gained back!

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Today I moved out of my toxic household, got my own apartment, cut off abusive family, started my new diet, started community college, and I found out I’m getting my permit soon!

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I finally got out of my abusive relationship! Even though I’m sad sometimes I know im safe!

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I've been having a really hard time loving myself lately, I have Chronic mental and physical health issues and my self esteem has plummeted. Please help lift me up.

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I don’t feel pretty enough to be loved. It’s a huge trigger for my dating anxiety as dumb as that sounds. Like I just want to be enough for someone so badly and I’ll love them very deeply

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Had to shave for mandatory military service and got dumped by a boyfriend of 6 years. Really not doing well. Toast me?

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Broke up with my fiance of 2 years on Tuesday and my friend forgot my birthday is this weekend so I'm spending it alone. Toast would be very appreciated^^ have a good day!

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Lot has happened. Friend died, girl I was seeing for months and fell head over heels for left, nobody has talked to me in weeks. Phone is an expensive paper weight now. Could use a toast.

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I have the lamest Toast Me reason ever but I'm proud of myself: I figured out I was getting catfished before any feels or money were given.

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6 months of being unemployed, dozens of applications and passing around resumes, and I FINALLY GOT A JOB TODAY!!!!

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I just published my book FINALLY! I quit my job and decided to finally pursue my dreams of being a historical fiction author. I am going from happy to exhausted to doubting myself to thrilled to frustrated and everything in between. Wish me luck! Toast me!

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3 weeks ago my boyfriend of almost 12 years told me he doesn't love me anymore, and has been in an online relationship with someone else for the past few months. I'm trying to put on a brave face, but I'm completely heartbroken and am struggling with anxiety attacks. Please toast me.

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finished my first year of college yesterday! feeling really good and wanted to share :)

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Can I get a toast for someone who don't have a lot of friends and don't even have a complete family to be with but still trying to be there for myself?

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Anorexia and Leukemia survivor.. And Future Med school Grad or History Teacher :) toastme!

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My dad came into town setting off a couple days of crying and depression for me. I’m recovering from complex childhood ptsd. Please give me word hugs and toasts ❤️ ty

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38, single for 6+ years, decided to get a degree a couple years ago, so going to college full time, working full time, super-poor, and it seems like the more I try to make my life better, the worse it gets. My poor neglected doggo loves me, tho.

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I've completely broken contact with my abusive father, and completely broken down in general. It's bad. r/toastme

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31F - First time mom, don’t feel at home in my post-baby body. Tired, puffy, nothing fits me, house is a mess. I love my daughter more than anything, but I could use some nice words

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I'm spending my 40th birthday alone. cheer me up

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I've had incredibly horrible pain for almost a year. Found out today that it's endometriosis and it won't get better unless I do some things but then I can't get pregnant. My life has seriously gone downhill to no friends and no energy. I cut my bangs to feel like I have some sort of control

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I’d be grateful for a toast, please. I just restarted college after many years and I forgot how overwhelming it can be. I’m finally working on my bachelors. I’m a working mom and now full-time student. I just want to live long and prosper, dude!

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struggling with self image. always been bullied about my eyes. i’m not high i’m visually impaired.

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Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and PTSD from both being raped in 2001. Suffered severe verbal and mental abuse from 2011-2013 from roommates. I gained a lot of weight from trying to eat away my issues, but since 2016, I've lost 105 lbs. Starting to get my life together.

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I'll probably suffer from social anxiety because I post this, once I sober up I'll be mad at myself for sure, but I think I need some help so..hi

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A Russian here, tired of arguing with friends and family, none of whom are anti-war, can't take my mind off the war either. You don't have to toast me but maybe you can tell me how to decompress.

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Hey, 19yo trans girl here, lately very depressive again, don't see a point in taking my HRT anymore, Idk how to manage life anymore & barely handle work (elderly care nurse) & am alone. Bought (female) clothes recently, they looked masculine on me, got a mental breakdown & everything got worse.

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100 Days Sober! #Swag

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Nine, successful months in therapy for PTSD -and- I just hit 50k words in my first novel. Could use a toast to celebrate this

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Just got out of a 4 year marriage(together for 7) to my best friend/ mother of my child, and have been really down about the whole situation ... could use a toast to new beginnings! <3 Pulled out the camera tonight for a good distraction.

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After falling into a deep episode of depression, gaining 60lbs and dropping out of school last year, I came back stronger 💗 About to enter my senior year of college and lost 50 of those 60lbs. I don't have any one to share this with, but I still wanted to celebrate :)

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I have a big surgery tomorrow and I’m scared, but excited for the pain to be over with! Any support/encouragement would be greatly appreciated!

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Wife ended things via text and left me for another man, been depressed for months, this is the first time I've smiled in ages. Today I restart my life.

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Been feeling down lately. I'm really in need of a confidence boost :(

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(20M) I was about to start me dream job in April before covid knocked me back to the bottom of the ladder. I'm stuck in the same job I've been in for 3 years and I'm finally starting to slip with threats of dismissal 💤. I could really do with a toast right about now.

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i am one week clean of self harm! it’s hard, but i know i got this! toast me:,)

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Clean and sober for 26 days, been trying for half a year, oh and also no cigs for 5 days. Made this post to feel proud about the little accomplishments

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I'm feeling directionless, ugly, resentful, confused, scared, guilty, lethargic, restless, and sad. My heart even physically hurts and it's hard bec I don't have anyone who understands. I have depression and anxiety too and I haven't been taking my meds religiously. I don't know why. I'm just tired.

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A good friend recommended this sub to me as a place of respite. My abusive father died, and I'm fighting between two feelings: immense relief/joy that he's gone and a messed-up sense of sadness at the passing of a family member. I honestly just need a real dad or mom right now.

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[16M] I have a job interview at Subway tomorrow! I’m getting my first ever paying job!

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Got dumped by my girlfriend on Friday. Would appreciate a wee toasting!

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Today marks the start of my life. I have conquered mental illness and come to terms with the abuse that was hiding in plain sight. I am ready to show everyone what this rainbow 🌈 can do

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Recently diagnosed with breast cancer at age 28 and feeling overwhelmed. Could use any words of encouragement.

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Boyfriend and I broke up and he immediately moved on with an 18 year old which stings. Whenever I try to move life seems to have other plans. I feel like I’m being punished and could really use some nice words

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Today i'm off antidepresssnts for seven months! It rocks to actually feel something again :D

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I (24f) am recovering from anorexia and posted a selfie with a hippo and got called “fat,” or “which one’s the hippo?,” or ‘she’ll die.” Broke me down and makes me want to give up. Sometimes, jokes do hurt. Could really use some kind words <3

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Below 100 kg - wife noticed only after I told her I got a compliment

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In love with my lesbian best friend, failing university because of my depression and my parents think I’m a disgrace. I just feel lonely and I don’t know who to talk to

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Today is the 7th anniversary of I lived! I made a promise to myself, to my late rabbit, to my cousin, and to the whole world to never attempt again, to always reach out, and to live my life after I was blessed by a second chance! I was brought back to life for a reason, a lot of reasons, truly. 💜

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I look like a man and have severe eczema it makes me so sad and misrable. I hate looking at myself it makes me panick.

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I got new glasses, do they suit me?

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Just found this subreddit and I’ve been feeling very hard on myself & my progress, so could use a toast!

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9 months ago I posted here devastated that my gender affirming surgery had been cancelled because of covid. I am now 12 hours Post-op and more at peace then I've ever felt in my entire life. With all the recent post from trans guys here thought I'd share my joy. Exhausted but happy(He/Him only pls)

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I failed my first programming classes and i started seriously doubting myself. I dyed my hair and decided I’m gonna keep going for that Software Engineering degree ☺️

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19M. I have Autism. I have no friends or girlfriend. Depression is kicking my ass. Was recommended to post here by another user.

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