She randomly sends me stuff like this every now and then and it gives me the ✨ick✨2mo ⋅ ddun ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
trying to set some boundaries before seeing my uBPD mom next week at a friend’s wedding....2yr ⋅ SensitiveSnake_ ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
The Last Line Attaching Me to uBPD Mother and the Others...Severed!4yr ⋅ wanderingflower ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
First contact in 2 years and it’s the usual BPD bingo - my brother doesn’t even graduate until 20261yr ⋅ Mellon-dramatic ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
When you post an innocuous post about changing your mindset from positive to negative and uBPD mom thinks it’s about her3yr ⋅ futurephysician ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Does anyone else see things like this and die a little inside? I can’t even imagine what it’d be like to have a relationship like this with my mother5yr ⋅ purplelilly95 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Anxiety has gone down so much that I have nails for the first time in 8 years1yr ⋅ MaruEvergale ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
that one really hurt:/ she got me to break NC after 40 unresponded to messages and this one really got me...1yr ⋅ Flashy_Shame_7896 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Gaslighting info cartoon I found. Gaslighting is hard to understand by people who haven’t experienced it.5yr ⋅ CatPooedInMyShoe ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Blocked her number. I’m nipping this in the bud right away. Just want hugs please, so sick of it.4yr ⋅ tocatta ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Didn't think I'd have to block her on LinkedIn 🙃 (context in comments)6mo ⋅ Ltle1 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Haven't seen this one here yet. One of many from my uBPD mother.4yr ⋅ Bjorkatron ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Lol - I have to laugh because it’s always about my ubpd mom1yr ⋅ obsessedw_dogs ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
I remember when my dad dragged me into the garage at 15 to tell me if my mother left him he’d commit suicide and it’d be my fault :D4yr ⋅ rhabdogotmegood ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
No. It’s because I was raised by a woman who treated me as a confidante when I was a kid rather than her daughter, and who told me she needed me to take care of her. “You have to be strong for me” when my dad died. I am a strong woman because I had no choice but to navigate childhood on my own.5yr ⋅ Ilovecupcake33 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
BPD Mom was in hospital last week. I told her I hoped she’d be ok, but she had hurt me and I didn’t feel comfortable calling her (also, seeing her definitely wasn’t an option as I live in another country). This is her blowing up at me.3yr ⋅ Leeuuh ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
This post is dedicated to everyone who had a BPD parent who told them to watch their tone.3yr ⋅ SpaceMyopia ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
My face when the holidays trigger the “I don’t know why we’re not close anymore we’re faaaaaamily” speech from my BPD4yr ⋅ _camillajade ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Anyone Else Find Dogs and Clingy People's Constant Need For Approval and Attention Exhausting After Dealing With Parent with BPD?1yr ⋅ DisillusionedIndigo ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Fixated on the concept of “emotional intimacy” and how this book specifically educated on it. Thoughts? Anyone read it too?2yr ⋅ UnderTheSurface_F ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Sometimes we don't want to heal because the pain is the last link to what we've lost.5yr ⋅ 200LeggedCentipede ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Everything happens for a reason is such BS - This comic is spot on.5yr ⋅ jorwyn ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Don't ruin your life by letting your mother's craziness consume you. Don't, don't, don't.5yr ⋅ 200LeggedCentipede ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Hey everyone. I’m new and really grateful to have found this community ❤️4yr ⋅ Rose_ColoredGirl ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Why am I better parent to my pets than my parents were to me?5yr ⋅ waterynike ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Reflecting on a ruined weekend part 2. Is she for real?!2yr ⋅ shrinkingviolet89 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
I caved on NC and text my mom. Feeling stupid and in need of encouragement. I want my mom in my life, I just want her to treat me better. I need encouragement. I know texting her was wrong.1yr ⋅ ITKitten ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
I thought I could wait until December... more in comments1yr ⋅ Sparkly_Sprinkles ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Did anyone else’s parent rant about how it was “their time?”1yr ⋅ treesandstick ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Woke up to this lovely sentiment from my mother who has been pressuring me to break self quarantine to come visit her🙃 I am immunocompromised which makes it extra sweet.4yr ⋅ emotionaltomboy ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Update to one of my posts :( she had block me from that last interaction and just calls me an idiot? I don’t understand and it stings1yr ⋅ Chanclaphobia ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Anyone else’s u/BPD parent really into holistic and alternative medicine/always has health problems that are really undiagnosed mental health issues?1yr ⋅ mixed-tape ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
My husband is officially the scapegoat & the reason I won't talk to my family >:(1yr ⋅ Thoreaus_daughter ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
On today’s episode of melodrama. Context in comments.2yr ⋅ minimal-minimalist ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Some kitty tax: he likes to snuggle with his paws around my arm and his head held in my hand ❤️3yr ⋅ poplapmeisiekind ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
I used to be really into theater, and this is giving me serious flashbacks to my mom’s behavior.5yr ⋅ makegoodchoicesok ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
I literally left a box of pizza out. Why the hell does she have to make it about her?1yr ⋅ PickleJewler ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Anyone else cringe at the sight of mom paraphernalia? I’m a mom myself and see no value in this stuff.2yr ⋅ hayweehaywee ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
When your vlc BPD mother sends your son a first birthday gift 😒2yr ⋅ nurse_hayley ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
The assumptions made in posts like these irritate me. #NotMyMom 🤐🙄9mo ⋅ Kristenmarie2112 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
These texts always make me feel wrong for how I’m handling things1mo ⋅ Jadesen ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
A letter my dad wrote to my mom about me. It was fun to learn that a.) I wasn’t wanted by my mother and b.) I was, by his own admission, an emotional support animal.1yr ⋅ a1mostp3rfect ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Seen on Facebook. I’m really glad victim blaming and excusing a BPD’s person’s abuse are against the rules here cause that group sounds really toxic4yr ⋅ CatPooedInMyShoe ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
First post here. Anyone else experience the fake and not at all genuine weekly apology? It’s been happening for 3 decades now and it still really grinds my gears.2yr ⋅ reading-with-wine ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
BPD mom decided to cancel entire Japan trip with me because I wanted to take a cheaper flight (she's taking a more expensive flight to accommodate her dog, who she can not travel without). I feel like I should've been more sensitive to her needs but I also feel like it shouldn't be that big a deal.1yr ⋅ maricircus ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
“People go to therapy to deal with the people in their lives who won’t go to therapy”3yr ⋅ postrevolutionism ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
She posts things like this on Facebook but also fails to mention the parts where when I needed her to be a one true friend she would rage on me instead and then tell me not to be sensitive about it. Where is this one true friend she speaks of?4yr ⋅ Rose_ColoredGirl ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
29 seasons of my uBPD mom's favorite show I NEED PROOF THAT YOU ARE ALIVE. I am proud to say I skipped the first episode ever today at 7am and prioritized my morning routine instead. The picture is a reminder of how I am not going to respond to her worries anymore.2yr ⋅ Brilliant-Yam-7614 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
My mom sent me this last week out of the blue. I couldn’t help but laugh a little.1yr ⋅ Smolfeelings ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Thank you all, honestly you have made life so much more bearable,And anyone else think sphynx kitties are super cute?4yr ⋅ eggz1985 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
having a conversation with my uBPD mom about ANYTHING and this is her response2yr ⋅ damnedleg ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Text received from uBPD Mom yesterday...6 weeks before my wedding. Crossed out name is fiancee2yr ⋅ KlaranBinx ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
After refusing my calls for weeks, I received this from mwbpd6mo ⋅ Pixieindya ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Still navigating that toxic landscape (proud of myself)1yr ⋅ Some-Account2811 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
A conversation between a 52 year old mother and her 18 year old child... guess which is which 🙄5yr ⋅ sarexsays ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Cat Tax - I don't have one, but I had this photo saved for reasons I can't remember4yr ⋅ runswithdogs22 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
I recently went NC with BPDmom bc she denies that abuse ever happened, while continuing abusive behavior. She posted this to try to recruit FMs. I am LIVID4yr ⋅ _camillajade ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Happy Halloween - anyone else's pwbpd have a death obsession and said they're building their own coffin? 🎃 👻1yr ⋅ Pixieindya ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
This hits hard: The love they didn't give you in childhood, nobody can give you. Stop asking and offering. (A.J.)2yr ⋅ alterom ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Fun old email from my NC nmom to remind me why I’m NC in the first place.2yr ⋅ povsquirtle ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Do we have any examples of bpd person forgiving themselves in a conversation?1yr ⋅ mountainearthway ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
For Anyone who needs to hear Mr. Rogers tell you that No Contact is ok. (P.51 in “Life’s Journeys According to Mister Rogers Things to Remember Along the Way”)4yr ⋅ 4learningboundaries ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
What does it mean to a “caring child” to our pwBPD, compared to emotionally mature parents?2wk ⋅ rovinrockhound ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
My sweet old man who went over the rainbow bridge this year after my BPD mom didn’t feed him the food the vet prescribed.1yr ⋅ celiacjones ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Home for christmas, this was left wordlessly on my pillow in a box. Like having a stalker. I can also hear her singing carols creepily in the hallway.1yr ⋅ Far-Broccoli2226 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
I appreciate that she cares, but all I want is for her to stop giving me her advice. It feels like no matter how many times I try to tell her to please stop, it doesn’t matter. I feel like this is something ‘normal’ people would see as me blowing out of proportion. It upsets me a lot. Bleh.1yr ⋅ Leeuuh ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Hello! Long time lurker, first time poster. Have a photo of the world's best cat, sweet mama moon Salem. She passed away last month but helped me through lots of hard times and tears in the six years we spent together. 🖤4yr ⋅ juliet_echo_alpha ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Recently discovered in an old shoebox: My childhood rules for an ideal home, written at 10 years old.5yr ⋅ borderlinemadonna ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Her “expressing her pain” was her legit screaming at me and saying I hate her for 40 minutes. I’m glad I have people around me who see what’s going on or else I’d quickly start to doubt my sanity.2yr ⋅ 90semo ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Just in case anyone else needs this reminder today. I'm making it my new mantra.5yr ⋅ SentimentalPurposes ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
yikes, another paragraph of unsolicited advice — been trying to go nc with her for more than half a year1yr ⋅ hateyoutoobitch ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Here's the list that made me cut contact with my uBPD (can anyone relate?)8mo ⋅ scaredguy1999 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Mom took poor care of my teeth as a kid and I’m still paying for it6mo ⋅ s8n_isacoolguy ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Thought you could all relate to the latest text I sent my mom after she sent me a video of some tv show talking about how hard being a mother is and how their children just simply don’t get it. Cue all the eye rolls.1yr ⋅ ITKitten ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Ladies and gentlemen: my mother passive aggressively complaining about me on Facebook *chefs kiss*1yr ⋅ LzzrdWzzrd ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
ive posted pics of my cats but not my chickens. this is jimmy, the best little rooster. he died sunday and im heartbroken. never expected to love him so much much or have him love me back. rest in peace little man.3yr ⋅ westviadixie ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
All because I didn’t want to organise her cleaner while on holiday in Budapest...2yr ⋅ jenniecide1 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
BPD mom reaches out after I’ve been 7 months NC...what do y’all think 💀1yr ⋅ Feeling_Ad9520 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
uBPD upset that I'm keeping her from sinking her talons into my children while they are young (context in comments)2yr ⋅ Only_Ad9105 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
For cat tax - my old family cat Lady, who we had to say goodbye to last summer ❤️4yr ⋅ genericgecko ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
I've been pacing and worrying about this text all afternoon. Is this having a mom?? Where's the excuses, the guilt trip? Should I have been more profuse in my thank you? Am I going to have allergy meds dangled over my head for the next month? Sane parents exist??? Sorry for the crap editing.4yr ⋅ SometimesIArt ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
This is my baby Lucy. She's one of my best friends and confidants.4yr ⋅ MyCatLucifer ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Lovely correspondence from my uBPD mother. We have not been in contact for years for obvious reasons, and now suddenly she's desperate to get a ring back that she GAVE to me like a decade ago (she gave it to me because it doesn't fit her).3yr ⋅ LadyWoodstock ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
a reminder to anyone else having a day where they want to hide under the covers. you are so very easy to love.5yr ⋅ capnseagull99 ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
Definitely one of the most damaging things my mom has ever said to me.5yr ⋅ justwannaedit ⋅ r/raisedbyborderlines
