Anyone else’s BPD mother do stuff like this?

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NC for 6 months, and mom sends this for valentine's day. 🙄

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It seems so innocuous at first until you realize that she's basically just trying to tell my child how to use her birthday gift to make *her* happy. Ah yes, I see now how I ended up feeling responsible for her emotions.

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Happy Birthday to... me? 😒

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Are you effing kidding? My dog is dying. My special needs son just went back to in-person school. My job is absolutely insane right now. I DO NOT need your crazy BS, lady.

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Do you ever feel like you’re grieving for the parent you wished you had? I grew up hoping if I changed, she’d stop being a volatile harpy. Finally I realized she never would, no matter what I did, and it was freeing but very sad.

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I feel like RBBs would interpret this meme very differently from non RBBS

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message from AI psychologist that made me cry 🥺 i think this is so important for kids raised by abusive parents to hear

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One of the most beautiful kittens in the world. Meet Daisy, by photographer Ben Torode. She's grown up now, but everyone should have a chance to see her as a kitten.

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When the waif in your life is being extra waify... context in comments

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Guys! It's a book just for us!

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Another good one

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Oh Diet Coke, noooo

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To those out there struggling because mom was BPD. How about you celebrate you this Sunday.

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Here's my kitty tax. This is Gavi and she just got here. Still a bit scared, but already explored my whole place.

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The delusion never ends. She’s never met my child and never will.

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Guilt over guilt NC right when I’m about to have a baby

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Cat tax: Meet Phil

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has anyone’s other parent ever been the “all bad” child?

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Another disappointing text from EDad. I muted him after his stupid Christmas text (left). I've ended up in the hospital, and he follows up with these (right). I haven't replied, that spot on my heart feels hollow.

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I’ve never met anyone else who knew what it was like. Tears of joy over here for finally feeling understood. Thank you all for existing and sharing your wisdom 💜

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Mom posted this on my FB wall on my birthday years ago. Still cringing.

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Visited my mum today and had a chuckle when I saw her notepad

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My mother's gift to me

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For all who get told They tried their best.

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Thanks Mom.

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why do they use so many sinister ellipses 😭 (context in comments)

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This is the last email I got from my NC BPD mom that led to me finally blocking her rather than just ignoring her communication attempts. It has all the borderline greatest hits.

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Because we can all use a reminder!

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This is so f*cking problematic

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This is my cat

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Advice I wish I could tell my BPD mother but know it would fall on deaf / angry ears.

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Anyways here’s this.

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I thought I was in the clear at the store now that the Mother’s Day cards are gone.

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I don’t know how I’m supposed to react to this comment my NC uBPD mom posted?

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I'm more of a dog person, so i found this special cat for you

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Predicting her BPD Rage Before it Happens - an algorithmic prediction model that works for me

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I’m sorry, I had to post this.

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uBPD mother strikes again... considering NC

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Can greyrocking give you depression over time ?

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Just another Day After Mother’s Day text

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My dad has been on the brink of death my whole life. My mom used to think that he said it because his dad died young, but now I think he's just been in a constant state of manipulating us.

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Is it possible to get her to stop texting me all day every day?

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Cheers to my mother

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did anyone intervene? was it helpful or harmful?

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i’ve been LC for about 2 years with my uBPD mom who has been waifing to try to get me back

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Today I told my mwBPD and esister that I won’t be coming to esister’s wedding, and used the opportunity to initiate NC. Terrified but excited at the same time

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I have been reading for a while. Raised by a Borderline mum and beginning to want to post and respond, so please meet my Sparrow Kitty 🐈‍⬛

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Walking in the neighborhood and found this sitting outside. Now I know which house to avoid!

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Cat tax: my furry best friend helping with the recycling.

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My very happy childhood memories, according to uBPD mom

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My foster child, Biscuit!

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I feel like I'm still trapped in a corner

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Never forget the hands that raised you...honor your father and mother

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Borderline/narc mother posted this on Facebook. It's the exact opposite of how she raised us.

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WIBTA if I asked my mom not to talk about suicide and other favorite topics when she visits?

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Need outside perspective

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Christmas gift I’m most excited about

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I’m not scared, uBPD Mom. I just don’t like you!

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How have you dealt with having no family?

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The dramatics

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nothing says emotional maturity like blaming your kid for your (potential) divorce

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I broke NC for the first time and need some help

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Celebrating 6 Months NC today!!

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Mom’s birthday was the other day. She tried a guilt trip on my LC brother, he clapped back.

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UBPD Mom is in the middle of having a tantrum on Facebook. She shared this video. The “she” my mother is referring to is my aunt (her sister) who is definitely not a narcissist. The irony here is just hilarious.

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Y’all.. I can’t. For context my partner and I took my parents on a trip to the Grand Canyon a couple weeks ago and it was fine until the last couple days when my dad decided to throw an actual tantrum about an unknown thing and ignore everyone instead of expressing his emotions. This is his apology.

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Kids going NC too

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Advice needed— context in comments

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Somebody please explain this behavior for me- Waif/Hermit mom has turned her house over the years into grandkid Disneyland... makes kids change into ‘grandma’s house clothes’, doesn’t allow “her” toys or clothes out of her house. I have literally never seen this or heard of this anywhere else, help!

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There is nothing wrong with you...

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I’m really just exhausted.

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From my birth giver’s social media.... I....

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Wanted to share. We’ve all been here!

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A friend of mine posted this yesterday and it really spoke to a lot of the work I've had to try to do. My mom will never be able to work through or acknowledge the crazy stuff she did and I have to heal regardless.

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Ah, yes. The old, “invalidate my daughter’s problems with recounts of how mine are always worse than hers.” Also known as maternal oneupmanship.

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Healthy relationships have them

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Cat tax: here’s a picture of my baby, Garbage aka dumpster kitty. Been lurking for a long time and this is my only account. Thought it was finally time to make my first post.

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I’m trying to assert myself more. How would you tell her that this makes me want to talk to her less without starting WW3?

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Anybody else?

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Do I Respond? *context in comments*

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Cat haiku + Emotionally absent borderline mother

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Happy Gotcha Day to the dog I confiscated from my uBPD mom: a year ago today, I removed the sweet senior dog my mom had been keeping locked up alone in a filthy garage, flea-treated her, got her caught up on shots and took her home with me. She’s been living a happy doggy life since then.

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Obligatory cute cat post in case I forget (and also a thank you)

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uBPD mom on hospice.

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This is from a dating app. What would you say to this guy?

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Shared with permission

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Do you really want to know your “transgressions”?...

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Me when I realized that I have a motherly personality because I was never properly mothered..

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😂 Came home to this today. My door knob is loose. I didn’t know that was a big deal until this morning.

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Just now realized why for so many years I thought I was the bad person

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From eDad. No apology, just a demand that I forgive “whatever wrong[s]” “for myself” bc apparently it will erase my memory of all the abuse? I hate this whole “it’s for your own good, let it go” type of framing

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Do BPD parents try to do this to get a supply again?

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My mom joined a FB group where strangers surprise one another with alcohol. She promised me that she wouldn’t share our address... Now I’m getting the silent treatment

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Xmas Stocking

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I had never understood what trauma bonding was until I saw this list.

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To respond or not to respond

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The type of thing people without BPD moms would gaslight us for feeling sensitive about

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uBPD mom claims we’ve already ruined the family vacation

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Today happens to be my cat’s bday, I’m celebrating that instead...(thought she could cheer some people up ☺️)

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My BPD mother sent this to me for Mother’s Day. I’m allergic to cow’s milk and have always disliked blueberries. I guess I can have the tea?

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Part of me (IFS) that keeps me enmeshed with mom. Realizing this is how my mind represents our relationship has inspired me to go NC.

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I feel seen here

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My uBPD mom is overly excited about a toothbrush.

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She's accused me of theft

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Ooooohhhh.

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Was searching through old emails for something, and stumbled on this. My mom really just casually says the most unhinged shit I’ve ever heard in my life

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My mom everyone, posing as my dad on messenger. (Knew it wasn't him. My dad never says things like this, but still so infuriating.)

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I found this yesterday and I’m a little shocked. I always thought there weren’t any issues until my 20’s. Maybe little me already had an idea?

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🙃 Gotta love seeing posts like this from your uBPD parent on Facebook

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Looking back at old screenshots before I stuck to NC, nothing can be about me. She always managed to turn things into a pity story

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Does your guy's BPD parent kind of refuse to state preferences/don't know what they want?

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Happy holidays everyone!

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My sister loaned me her book and HOLY COW. Y’all were right about this one, it should be this group’s honorary bible.

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Update to my last post. Email from eDad - he'll always choose her.

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Is it my wedding or my mum's?

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HI! Cat tax plus bonus pup

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Simple yet powerful.

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I'm newly NC - the only Aunt I talk to sent this

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what do i even make of this

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The Ideal Mother vs The Borderline Mother (from Understanding the Borderline Mother by Christine Ann Lawson)

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Another day, another weird text.

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classic uBPDmom manuever #001: “I’m so sorry that I’m abusive... Why do you make me act like this to you?” 🙄

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Flying monkey in my DM after I set a boundary to my uBPD mother concerning my pregnancy. Context in comments.

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125 days NC...and she sends me these pictures of her garden. I'm more confused than anything. I clearly stopped talking to you in every way, and yet she thinks a pictures of flowers will get me to talk to her again? What is this??

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Depression and Borderline, heck of a combo

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Last words before going NC (cont. in comments)

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Why do I even try?

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Posted on FB a few days after I told her she couldn't contact me daily and was boundary stomping:

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It’s my birthday. She had the entire day off, knew my husband and I would go to dinner. Bought me a gift card for said dinner, and yet this is when she calls.

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I had an anxiety-ridden week and in case anyone else did too, here is my friend’s kitty being cute and peaceful for your enjoyment

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Happy birthday to me, I guess.

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She doesn’t “trust” a professional

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This shit is so damaging to us. Our parents have told us for our entire lives that we are ungrateful and disrespectful and they tell us ALLLL the TIMEEE about the saaacccrriiifiiceees they’ve made for our ungrateful asses. They’ve asked us this since birth, “what can my child do for me”

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I made my cat tax post long ago, but I wanted to share my new kitten! Meet Ella.

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I really relate to this statement, feel it explains it well

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uBPD mom’s response in a family group text about my 4yo saying something funny is such a bummer and also not a surprise

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Did Your pwBPD make up stories about you in front of guests?

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A post from my sister when she was pregnant. Angry that I set boundaries & wouldn’t babysit her first child at her beck and call. Our uBPD mother told me i didn’t have empathy of what she is going through... anyone else have similar stories?

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Do I explain why I am going no contact?

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First bit of contact in over 2 years. All of the emotions just came back to me at once. Wtf is this, A yes or no question?

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I'm new here....looking for support

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She got the hint, but how do I respond to this? It feels like a trap. (Context in comments)

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And the anxiety/anger that sometimes follows and keeps you awake 👌🏼

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Sure, text me only when you need something. Her words of affection mean nothing to me and it hurts me greatly.

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