Uhh...

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Thanks for the laughs mom.

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I listened to everyone’s advice and this is the best Christmas ever. Thank you!! I bought my first EVER tree, and bought myself gifts and wrapped them. Have a plan for tomorrow and so excited.

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I wish everyone did this.

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When will this end? I’ve been 6 months NC after she didn’t take my dad’s weekly falls seriously and he fell down and died. She loves her house more than her family and wouldn’t let dad leave.

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Is this a flying monkey? I went no contact with my uBPD mom and uBPD sister in October. Both are blocked on social and on my phone. On thanksgiving, she sends me and my husband a pic of a dog. I didn’t get it bc I have her blocked but my husband showed me. Ugh

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my mom tricked me into breaking no contact - context in comments

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A heartfelt apology from my mother

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Thanksgiving reads

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Just the content I wanted to see from my mother this morning 🙃

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Time to memorize these

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The pills our parents can't seem to swallow

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Peak BPD

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This sounds like a perfect response to a lot of our parents’ defenses of their actions.

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*has told me she wants me to die, hates me, wishes I was never born*🥰🥰🥰 I wish my mom didn’t have BPD. This will forever be how it is. Zero awareness, reflection, accountability, apology. It’s exhausting and sad as hell.

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This one hit me like a truck. Do you relate to this?

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I really needed to read this, and wanted to share for whoever else really needs to read this today

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out of the blue text (those poor cats!)

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I'm pretty sure this sums up everyone's feelings about their BPD parents

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pwbpd be like

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My mother making it all about her, even on my birthday.

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I tried the “repeat your short statement as needed” tactic with my E-Dad. Apparently I’m to tell my grandma the truth: that my parents are abusive and I’m NC with them? This text sure helps for evidence. Thanks Dad!

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Sounds good to me! I hate this holiday.

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Tried setting a boundary with my BPD mom...this is how she responds. I’ll probably never speak to her again.

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Kitty for you

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She posted this gem on facebook today.

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Saw a post about weird gifts from BPD parents. Here are my “Christmas gifts” from dad that a sibling delivered this weekend.

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eStepdad’s FB posts make me rage and today, as a teacher, I couldn’t stop myself. Their narcissism and complete lack of empathy is mind-blowing.

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Finally paying my (fictional) cat tax; hope you guys like Ghibli cats! Haiku in the comments.

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God I hope my flight is cancelled

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Set boundaries for the first time. I knew it wouldn’t go well, but this text hurt. Also included phone calls with rage and me emotionally responding. Almost makes me feel like it’s easier to just pretend I’m supporting my uBPD mom than trying to set boundaries.

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Is anyone else’s mothers OBSESSED with social media like this?

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I've been disowned

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How to respond (or not) to potential flying monkey?

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First proper boundary setting went well...

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4 months of NC after having a baby and the smear campaign has started

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I think I am going to officially change my phone number....

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Hello friends! Saw this on FB and stole it for RBB. What are your favorite things about yourself that you were inspired to be (in spite of your parent/s)?

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uBPD mum shows her true colours when she accidentally sends a text about me, to me

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Classic....

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my ubMom is the epitome of Petulant. which one is yours?

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Just in case anyone is doubting their (childhood) abuse.. it comes in many forms.

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Spotify gets it

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Do parents with BPD enjoy conflict?

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In true BPD fashion she made sure to gaslight me after being mean to me, context in comments.

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I'm laughing, I never stand up for myself but just didn't care today so I mirrored her sentiment back to her. Surprise surprise she wasn't a fan

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Help me cope with this BS letter

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Poor me, indeed.

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This is a public service message!

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Every day is like this

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Hubby sent this to me this morning. Thought the rest of my RBB fam could use a giggle!

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Role reversal af

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uBPD mom makes every comment about her

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What’s missing?

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The latest installment of the novel my dBPD parent is writing in my inbox

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Found some old court documents.

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[UPDATE] It’s my birthday. Now she’s turning me away 😂

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I'm new, here are my cats.

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Apology Letter Causing Mixed Feelings

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BPD Mom dangled something in front of me just to take it away

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Debating breaking NC to answer this

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Recent random text ??? request from uBPD mom. Had to share. We’re LC, and for the last couple years I only respond when necessary/appropriate.

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uBPD grandma on fb was a mistake

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Saw this posted and thought “oh, your mom has BPD also?”

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UBPD Mom posted this on her Therapy office’s page. The irony is killing me.

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And there goes the much needed hour of extra sleep I was going to get...hate when she does this. I, predictably, haven’t heard back. (It could be anything from “this new shampoo my friend gave me is amazing” to “I have fallen and broken every bone on the left side of my body”)

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How do you handle attention seeking behavior in general?

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Been a lurker here for a while. Here's my cat tax of my beloved calico

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Why does this bother me so deeply?

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Came up on my recommendation feed, felt this way too hard

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Ugh...

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Happy new year 🙄

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Your Romantic Relationships and your BPD mom

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I fricken CANNOT with this sh*t. Warning: I'm absolutely furious, sass level 100.

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Tried really hard but, I could not come up with a funny name for the cat.

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Why does this make me feel so unsettled?

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This reel just hit me hard

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I need to put this out there and then let it go (TW: physical abuse)

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Pretty much how my 1st year of healing is going

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I guess she thought 23 days of NC was enough lol (context in comments)

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Happy birthday from the momster! Obviously this is what you should send your child on their birthday. Nevermind that we've been NC for 4 years 🙄

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This explains a lot in my life. My mom was mostly the witch BPD type 😕

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For my fellow RBB’s... it’s better to be the black sheep than to be wrapped up in the toxic hot mess that bpd parents bring

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Honestly what do you do for a mother you are less than happy with at the moment because you’re discovering just how much your childhood messed you up and that you were actually a good kid that got dealt a shitty hand?

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BPD parent- I didn't mean to hurt you!!!

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A very ‘normal’ exchange with my dBpd Mum

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who else relates

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Look after yourself.

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Called at 11pm. I picked up.

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What does she actually want from me with this text? “In case I’m dead?” What?! I live 9 hrs away and wouldn’t know if she was sleeping all day, I’m not the right person to manage an old man’s medication from interstate.

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uBPD mom went nuclear over my newborn baby

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I finally blocked her.

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I went no contact

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This community has helped me immeasurably. As a thank you, here’s a beautiful goth cat - my spirit animal. Thank you all!

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🤣🤣🤣 letter from uBPD mom

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I’m getting an eye twitch

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Meet Pouncer, today's cat tax. I've submitted the tax before but figured we could all use a dose of furry cuteness.

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I actually laughed out loud

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Why the only “winning” with a bpd is not playing at all.

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uhhhhhhg

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All I asked was a simple question

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Amazing text from NC mom’s husband

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there's so much to unpack here

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the ultimate BPD trap of a text to me and my brother this is ⚠️

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Anybody else’s pwBPD have this piece of garbage on their shelf?

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withholding soon-to-be-ex husband said he doesn’t want his cats. more for meeee 😻

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Been a minute since she’s sent a whack text trying to get my attention...looking for affirmation that this is indeed a weird thing to post on FB and an even weirder thing to screenshot and send to your adult daughter who doesn’t have fb

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Stood up for myself...this was the response

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This is making the rounds on FB, and all I can think of is the poor kids trapped at home with BPD or narcissistic parents

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You guys are all wonderful.

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Affirmations

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So apparently it's because of the patriarchy... couldn't be because she's has a full blown personality disorder. The level of denial and self delusion is unreal.

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Dad broke no contact with this message and I’m back in the FOG. Support in seeing this message more clearly would be helpful. Thanks.

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Got this out of nowhere today... I moved 1,500mi from my parents and now they’re about to move 1,000mi closer and I’m panicking

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My bpdmom posted this image on her Facebook account..

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I recently (as in 2 days ago) discovered that the particular brand of f'd up my mother is is BPD. I've learned so much about myself and why I am the way I am in those few days. Honestly not handling it well. I'm a mess. Can we talk? Cat tax! The void is Mona, Luke is underneath, floof is Harley ♥

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Why they gaslight ... to excuse themselves for their behavior.

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Damn. This is my parents to a T! What was your biggest pet peeve with your PWBPD?

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Oof. Context in comments.

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Girl, STOP TEXTING! Been like this since 9/17

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The newest facebook statement about me going NC

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Nope nope nope.

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I hate getting texts like this from my dad. I know he’s abusive, but things like this make my heart hurt and my inner child wants a chance for a father, and my first impulse was “yes” as it would be naturally for any child. But I know he will always hurt me, and the text is manipulative.

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My father is a child...

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uBPD is a fucking circus

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When you felt like you couldn't ask your mom for anything... because she would probably break her back to get it for you and later get resentful at you.

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I get one of these gems every once in a while. They dropped all of my childhood things on my porch a month ago.. now this. Infantilizing is gross.

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Yessssss 😂

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Any advice on how to handle this?

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So I’m “super excited” to go talk about my BPD mom in a “controlled environment” with a new therapist later

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If you go the route of forgiveness, you’re trying to forgive something that’s still happening. You can let go of all anger and resentment and STILL keep your distance and have whatever kind of contact (or NO contact!) that works for you. Don’t let anyone guilt you into thinking otherwise

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Damned if you do...

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My brother got this today. This was after the whole trespassing at my home thing. I’m kinda freaking out because she doesn’t normally get to me but this does :/

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Do others’ parents do weird sh*t like this?

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And it begins....

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To my fellow, emotionally-suppressing, raised-by-borderlines:

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Thank you to whoever recommended this book to me. So much of it resonates and makes sense. Bela Lugosi is reading it next to me 😌

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Ruins Holidays before they even happen

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NC for 6 months, and mom sends this for valentine's day. 🙄

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Could not have scripted this better. Thought we were getting somewhere until I used the word ‘boundary’...

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never thought a pandemic would lead me on a journey of healing but here we are

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Cat Tax: This pretty alleycat was screaming outside my window. I guess they just really needed to be heard, because they stopped as soon as I gave them a little attention.

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Finally have photo evidence of uBPD mom guilt tripping me when I try to set a boundary. It's validating to physically see how ridiculous she sounds so I know it's not just all in my head.

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Got my first post NC communique from BPD Smother! Postmarked on Valentine’s Day for extra guilting. 😂

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Typical

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