Me after work everyday looking at my phone to see all 100 of the unhinged text messages my mom has sent me

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It took getting married and observing a functional family dynamic before I realised this

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For anyone who can use the pandemic as an excuse not to spend time with family...

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uBPD mom went off on my MIL out of nowhere

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Oof... must have been a rough 6 hours I guess 🤣

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Just a nice visual of breaking the cycle of generational trauma

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No more tiptoeing! 💪🏽

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It is more than okay to do what ever is best for you on every single day of the year. 😘

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Thought you guys would appreciate this

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I just got my first tattoo, and I figured people on this sub might appreciate it

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And the Oscar goes to...

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Boundaries

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Thought this would fit here.

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Potato, BPD

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My mom sent me an email...we are no contact. I'm having a hard time processing this. This is in response to the previous letters we have exchanged. Details in the comments.

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Cat tax with haiku

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I found this to be very encouraging/empowering and wanted to share with you guys 💜

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I’ve had to learn (and unlearn) so many basic things as an adult!

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My husband is in the hospital. But her DMV experience is the nightmare.

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Thanks for being here, RBBs. ❤️

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how can I help? ... Do you have a time machine, EDad?

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Boundaries

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Context in comments.

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This is just hilarious in a dark way because it’s EXACTLY how I feel when interacting with my family (particularly uBPDMom).

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Someone who’s been mentally abused will...(shared with my husband and he said it’s useful for him to know, maybe will help someone else here, too)

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Yep

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Any other eldest siblings get absolutely wrecked by this song/character in Encanto

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setting boundaries with your parent is hard when they feel entitled to your personhood

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A little art therapy

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My conversation with mom earlier. Lets just say it didn't go well.

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Napkins that ruin my appetite.

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Borderline mothers dont sleep at night

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Should I follow up on this? (Explained in comments)

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An old journal entry from a mom and daughter diary my mom bought for us to do.

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Cat Tax

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Context: I told my separated parents I wanted to move states for school, and my dad offered to move with me to help me. My mom was not as supportive.

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We know this all too well

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New here. Wanted a space to share this hurtful message from my dad with other that understand.

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We Survived Smother’s Day.

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Not taking the bait

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When you hear other people refer to their parents as their best friends.

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She keeps trying lol

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When BPD parents use the I had a rough childhood excuse.

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Not a normal mom

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I am 10 days into no contact. I have no idea where to go from here.

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Her Lack of Self-Accountability is Shocking

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My sister’s joke. My parents were going off about how if they “let” me visit my long distance boyfriend we’d have sex so they obviously can’t do that. I said it was ridiculous because I’m 22 and also they’re constantly talking about how important it is that I have biokids. So my sister said this

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I'm actually ok with this apology. Not to mention hella surprised

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I’ll take “what is not actually a resolution” for 800 please

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What a difference 24 hours can make....

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drop a comment if reading this made you feel like you were reading a story about yourself

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The I've been a horrible mother, I'm so terrible, (comfort me!) technique. Anyone else get this one from their BPDmom?

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Just a reminder

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I’m so sick of BPD apologists on Twitter (Reposting because I forgot to redact info, oops!)

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Should I allow her to see my kids?

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Damn, I didn’t come to Target to get triggered

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Borderline rage strikes again

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Y’all... been no contact with my parent for over a year... out of nowhere their partner calls me and says “it’s important.” I checked their FB to make sure they were still alive and I saw this post. As a many time receiver of the “what happens in this house, stays in this house,” this shook me tn

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Never have I resonated with a meme more

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“It is narcissism to shun a parent who loves you” is the title of this article in the Danish news paper “Berlinske”. I’m speechless... (translation in body text)

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Aunt who was always “evil” per uBPD mom posted this on social media. Ironically, post NC, she and her husband are the only family members being supportive and saying they understand my decision.

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This.

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My therapist said ‘The reason why you love animals is because their love for you is unconditional. The love from your mother was conditional.’

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Does anyone else struggle with their BPD parent being kind/considerate to their child? My BPD mother is loving and kind to my daughter and I resent it, even though I’m glad that daughter isn’t treated how I was.

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BPDana Jones

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Be brave

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If only

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This hit hard

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Steeeeeeeerike three, you’re out!

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My first text when waking up. She almost got me.

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I feel nauseous and lightheaded, but I did it!

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This would make a wonderful gift for my mother!

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At 89 Reddit days old, this is how I feel

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Meeeeeme

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Now *this* is BPD

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Saw this on another sub, felt like it belonged here as well. Happy Friday RBBs! <3

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My birth givers always told me I was allergic to cats, turns out that was a lie. Meet my two kittens! They’re my perfect little family and no one is sneezing :)

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Viewing our trauma through a literary feminist lens

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Yep

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Does this hit any of you hard in the feels as it does to me? The news of his diagnosis had been a deep trigger for me, as my mom has health problems and I struggle with my feelings about it.

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Who related to Helga way to much as a kid?

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I told my BPD mother I wanted her to stop trauma dumping on me. This is her response.

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sometimes i think i'm making it all up, but then

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no one had better compliment my cooking around my BPDmom! or else!

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Burnout, caregiving and learned helplessness

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how do I deal with this???

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follow up on housewarming party messages

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I think complaint and insults are the way to progress this dialogue /s

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Unplugged cat's feeder and water fountain instead of her phone charger, lamp, computer cord, or charging headphones

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Anyone else realize your BPD Mom and eDad literally have no idea who you are when you receive gifts...

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Downloaded from r/traa and reposted here

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RBB rise up 😆 (sharing here cuz my siblings are probably tired of receiving memes like this LOL)

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uBPD mom asked an invasive question about my finances. I asked why she needed to know, and didn’t realize how manipulative her response was until my therapist broke it down!

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It may be temporary, but it’s my first time ever going NC!!

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well, she found my personal social media account

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When your BPD says they miss you.

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Holidays are here. They're often hard. So, that means extra good reminders are coming your way!

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It’s Mother’s Day where I am. Made this one for some of us who might need this reminder today (myself included) 💜

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sent my BPD mom this text when she broke boundries

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We’re still NC with BPDMom. The baiting has started.

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I don’t let my uBPD mom gaslight me anymore. And I saw this picture and love every ounce of it

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A lol, if anyone needs it <3 and if you haven't read it, The Body Keeps the Score may be a good one to add to your list of trauma-healing books.

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My moms response to the info I sent her about learning about my daughters newly diagnosed rare disease

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Monday Motivation! 💛

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This strategy is....certainly new. Logged into netflix to find my avatar and name changed to Please call mom asap. Wtf

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Saw this on Facebook and thought it belonged here

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Bought a motorcycle last year and kept it from my mom until now. This was her response.

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my mom doesn’t believe in medicine and has wanted me to get off adderall since i’ve been prescribed it for my diagnosed ADHD. I set hard boundaries with her and she’s saying it’s the meds and I feel like a bad bitch with my level headed and assertive response. the thumbs down SENT ME

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Woke up to this today. My SO,s family had a baby shower, I attended, my BPD saw the photos online.

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Morning texts from mom 🤦🏾‍♀️

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Cat tax. This was my very old, sweet kitty who died a couple years ago.

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I hate this so much, but I feel like I'm overreacting

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Feeling this a little too much

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I wonder if the latter one is the driving thought behind cluster b's?

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RBBs, does your pwBPD micromanage your relationships with others? I got this text today.

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Gotta love that gaslighting 🙃

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What's a gem that your pwBPD posted with no self-awareness?

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mood

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Facebook click bait making glad I’m NC

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Also from pseudo-hippy uBPD mum: Always trust your intuition, believe what your gut tells you about people... unless it's something negative about me of course, then you're just a cold-hearted, selfish child!

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Message from my brother since I went NC

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Me going NC

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It’s my birthday. Why do I even bother lol 😂

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Mom texted today wanting to send flowers after kid's heart surgery. I finally just pulled off the band-aid.

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nothing like the one-up game whenever you try to confide in them about your problems

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a very impressive reminder

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This apology letter I wrote to my BPD mom. I was 10. (Story in comments)

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I feel this

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She’s definitely NOT an abuser, except for that one biting incident on the arm or leg oh yeah and the slapping.

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Pretty sad today.🥺

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IT’S A TRAP

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This explains why my mother thinks she's a genius 🤦‍♀️

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A great analogy for all of us

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“Mother” referring to my 1.5 year old she’s never met. Just recently found out that we are expecting again and I am officially blocking her.

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So every other day or so...

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Someone may need to see this

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New email from my Nmom - NC for 2.5 years.

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Sent my mom 200 dollars in groceries after she told me she was starving and had nothing to eat. This was her thank you.

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Found on Tumblr, thought it might be helpful to post here

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You don’t have to let toxic people stay!

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Lol

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Happy birthday to me

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Stressy & Demanding ubpd Mom texts: a fact of RBB life

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Mother’s Day in the US is coming up. Sister sent me this to commiserate on the first advertisements for the “holiday”cropping up

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Bizarre attachments

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So grateful that this community allowed me to anticipate these holiday messages and stay strong in my 2 years NC. To anyone else it may help... here’s my uBPD (and likely NPD) dad reaching out and getting increasingly upset by every minute I don’t reply.

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So, so relatable

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this resonates

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