This hit me hard today

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Good advice

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My Dad Died!

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It can end with you

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YES

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Made some vent art after a conversation with my mom.

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Days after she sent me an email apologizing for calling me a fat bitch, I received this... I’ve sent her two letters since April, the last one was two months ago and was written with help from my therapist outlining the behaviors I wouldn’t accept from her anymore.

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The irony of this website banner while looking at this book today made me chuckle

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For those of you choosing to be the cycle breaker. It’s always worth it.

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It’s not wrong...

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Few people will fully understand how difficult this decision is.

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Tried to reconnect with an aunt.

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Haven't spoken to my family in 10 years. Pay up. 🤣

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Break the cycle..

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On boundaries

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My philosophy

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My childhood...

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It's the truth

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6 month's NC with my mom's family, and counting... no regrets

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Been sending his cards back unopened for a couple of years now. He wont respect boundaries. Will i send this back along with the latest one?

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Another step towards closure

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I was blessed to see this today so I’m passing it on

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- View on Imgur

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The Estranged Adult Child, the abridged version.

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Thank you DoorDash!

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Estranged parents will relate to this book

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Nah Im good.

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Self explanatory. Doesn’t really need a title

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Wish me luck

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My mom wants to meet

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Mood for Mothers Day. So glad I cut her off.

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How I feel.

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❤️‍🩹

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So much talk these days of “boomer this”, and “boomer that” but there is some truth to the selfishness. It must suck so much to suck that you kick your child when they’re down.

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My mom's response to my fiancee and I deciding to hyphenate our last names

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This. And of course the replies included many parents blaming their estranged kids as usual

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If only they looked inward..

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I only get texts once every few months. They're always so lovely (NC 2years)

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A powerful cartoon. Seen on another sub.

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I’m 31 and haven’t talk to my mom in 6 years. I also haven’t let her do anything for me since I was 19 because it was always conditional. Apparently raising your child while emotionally abusing them is having their back 🙃

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For those that need a reminder

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I just realized that I'm the only person in my entire family who would even want pictures of me

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My NC mom made my sister ask me if I would talk to her. Was my response okay? More in comments.

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I feel this today. She can stay in her martyrdom far away from me.

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After almost 5 years of NC with egg-donor, moving several times, and changing my number, the boundary violation I've feared the most has been realized: she somehow figured out where I work, has obtained my direct work line, and email of my co-worker. She shared her secret plan to show up at my job.

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Letter from “mom”

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Family for the sake of family is the biggest eye roll

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Stay consistent with your boundaries and healing work! You’re doing amazing!

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Received today

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Estranged from my mom and her husband for 12 years. Was looking at his obituary after he died recently and found some sweet, sweet validation on the comment wall...

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Mom of Estranged Daughter Lacks Self Awareness

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Took an unintended deep dive into a parental unit's FB page and found this gem. So much wrong with this. And, they want to know why we are L/NC.

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Just a little reminder 💚

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My mom (no contact) chose a very special way to wish me happy birthday today

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I'm not going to change.

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letter to my husband and I from my toxic mum and dad. Gaslighting much?

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No/low contact for 2.5 years. She (my mother) occasionally texts vague messages about loving me but this is a first. Can’t believe how textbook she went with it.

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What can I say, except exactly this?

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This is the first time I haven’t gone to my moms for Christmas. I feel sad that she’s sad, but I feel good that I didn’t go. I’m relaxed and stress free, even as my baby coughs her poor lungs up. Is reconciliation even worth it at this point? I don’t think I’ve ever felt this light

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Hunt A Killer sent an email out that really made my day.

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I was served a FB ad for online therapy. Check out the top comment.

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Apparently I hate myself, thanks for looking out, mom

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Mom- Can't you just focus on my good qualities?!

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Make no mistake.

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NMother had been blocked everywhere except my professional FB account. Now she’s blocked there, too.

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Mum's response to no contact (texts)

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Tic tic pop everyone, time is running out!

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It's my depression that is posting this right now

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Post on my mom’s FB and she’s been posting stuff like this since I went NC with her. She’s posted so many things clearly aimed at me for weeks.

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When are they going to get that they are the problem!

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Couldn’t be his fault, not at all...

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All the time

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Ask Amy smacks down an EP:

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Parent- I'm not going to change.

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My mother sent me this after they both showed up unannounced and I refused to meet them at the door nearly a week ago

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Never an accident

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2 years NC and then this...

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It do be like that

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Recognizing and walking away from toxic family is becoming the new norm, and for that I am grateful.

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This is about what I expected, but it still stung. Have been LC for a long time; now I'm free. It's a strange feeling. (cw: mild transphobia)

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I'm not impressed.

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I gave you that trauma with all my heart! And I won’t apologize!

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I find it incredible that when you search for estranged adult children support groups on Facebook, the majority of the top results are for the parents of estranged adult children instead.

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Older people: You know I regret how I treated my parents when they were alive. Don't make the same mistakes I did.

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Hyper independence, anyone else? This is something I struggle with, fundamental trust issues at work.

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Father threatening to call police for a welfare check if I don't call him

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Update: Don’t think aunt is a safe place after all. Thank you all for your help, kindness & support.

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For all those struggling with isolation and feeling alone this Christmas: I see you, I love you, and you matter. May you find the love, peace, kindness, and compassion you so richly deserve in this world.

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Update (re email from 22 y/o bro triangulating for the rest of the family) and my response

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Anyone else receive texts like this from their far-right parent(s) after asking them not to bring up politics and religion? This was one year before I went no contact. Been NC for 2 years now and I feel like I can breathe.

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Watching daytime tv for the first time in 2 years & they are talking about estrangement. This woman is telling a father to be ‘persistent’ & to keep contacting his son despite him wanting distance and telling viewers they will feel ‘regret’ if they die without reconciliation.

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Really hurtful email from brother. Just need some support, context in comments

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You guys... 😂😂

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You are not obligated to forgive nor forget

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Hi, here is a bird (details in comments)

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Remember what love is...

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“After all I’ve done for you”

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a lil meme to make your decision feel valid!

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Found this saved on my phone and thought it belonged here

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Looking for something in our recent Amazon orders and saw this...

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I went fully NC last June, took a few times of communicating that and also letting other family members know that it wasn’t being respected. Got a phone call last week which I didn’t respond to and then this.

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Adjusting your life

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How I sleep at night...

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Care about yourself first.

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Happy Sunday Folks! (Copyright issendai.com)

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It's worked so far!

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My mother reached out to me today, to give me birth certificate.. is it a trap?

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No lie detected here.

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I can’t draw but felt compelled to make this

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Welcome to your future. Taken from r/murderedbywords and hit r/all.

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Yes!

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Got word my mother was misrepresenting our relationship. So I reached out to clarify... note her response.

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Indeed.

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Estranged mom decided to curse me out from another persons Facebook account.

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From were not really strangers

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Ain't this fun.

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UPDATE! (Re: I want to reconnect, but I don't want to sweep things under the rug.) Haven't heard from my mom since. I guess it's time to give up. Thank you everyone for your thoughtful responses. You've helped me more than you know.

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Who shreds their kids photos? Back to NC it is

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How do you guys handle this? Been NC on and off for years. Not sure how to feel.

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I read things like this posted on Facebook and it's difficult for me to not feel that I'm doing the right thing by distancing myself. I've not cut off communication completely, but definitely not reaching out anymore as I did in the past.

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Question from only family member I’m in touch with about my relationship with my parents

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This book changed my life

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The guilt over cutting contact comes back so strong when she sends this kind of email. Context in comments

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what bothers me the most are the random phone calls from distant relatives who’s numbers I don’t know. Estranged 2 years

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shut the f**k up, Target

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Having a rough day with NC read this, felt better and was reminded why we're estranged.

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If you are stalked or harassed by this user, please report for harassment and block.

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On reparenting

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All hope is lost I guess? (Letter from dad)

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wHy CaNt I sEe mY gRaNdAuGhTeR?!

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I feel like I should be more upset, more willing to fix our relationship... but then I replace ‘Momma’ with ‘Toxic Ex’ and these messages no longer hold the same weight. She’s my mother, but I just don’t feel any want or need to have contact. I’m just numb. Does it pass? Or is this the new normal?

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For those of you venturing into parenthood like me, remember this and stay strong.

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Going to pick up my Christmas dinner soon.

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father's Day came and went and I didn't message he changes his dp to this....

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2 months no contact with mom 😁

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After 30 years I (red) find out the POS dug addict (purple) that has cause me tremendous emotional pain and distress is not my bio father. My sister (orange) is not my full sister and then my mother mails me this letter. 5 months fully estranged. Would like y’all’s thoughts plz...

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